What a surprise!

Well this past Thursday evening my nap on the couch was interrupted by a phone call from our Faithful Adoption agency worker! I knew the only reason she would call was if she had a referral! Unfortunately she had forgotten we wanted siblings only, and she had the referral of an 8 year old boy, thinking we could get a girl later. But we are pretty set on siblings for a number of reasons. The first is because we are a rather large family (and extended family) for children to come into and we think "there is safety in numbers"! Well really, we just feel we might be less overwhelming if they have each other too. Another reason has to do with family history. As a family we have 20+ years of memory making behind us. We feel if a brother and sister also have a history together they may feel as though the two families are combining--rather than theirs being "engulfed" by ours. Then there is the issue of bonding--perhaps a child, going through the trauma of losing parents with a sibling, as opposed to alone, may have less difficulty to bond with, love and trust others. But really, that will be God's job. . .I have been praying for this adoption for many years. . .

I think we chose a brother and a sister because that is where the desires lie within the family. It also maintains the family balance and works well for the bedroom situation. . .

It is very difficult to say "no" to a child. I felt sad when I got off the phone and confused, as if something were not right. And even this post is an effort to explain that "no". But ultimately it is in the hands of God. We hope and pray our "desires" are placed in our hearts by Him. And we wish to willing submit those desires to Him. He is an awesome God and perfectly able to work with our frail frames and bring about his divine will!

Pray for the orphans. Blessings, Debbie